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The 2011 Out & About 500 is the complete list of Austin’s most
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Nightlife Stars:
Sofia, Rosa Maria and Victoria Avila. Mandarin Flower Co., Mexic-Arte Museum, Ballet Austin,
Zach Theatre, Greater Austin Chamber Music Center, Center for Child Protection, Boys & Girls
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Austin American Statesman’s Out & About 500 List
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How to get out of the “friend zone”
October 17, 2011 By
One topic that people seem to ask me to talk about over and over again is the issue of “the friend zone.” People always want to know how to avoid getting into the friend zone (especially when they are out on a date).Just asking the question means that you need to take a good look at your mindset. Think about the question: “How do I avoid the friend zone when I am out on a date?” …
When you’re out on a date with a woman. She is not looking at you as a friend if she accepted the date from you in the first place The fact that you have this concern, however, shows that you are going into your dates with the energy of being a friend. This means that you are playing it safe. It means that you are really not expressing your desires, feelings and emotions. You are basically in your head during the entire date, just being a “good guy” and probably agreeing with everything she says.
By playing it safe, though, you get exactly what you fear the most. You get put in the friend zone.
The most important thing to remember is that when you’re out on a date it’s all about your mindset and how you interact with the woman. It’s all about your eye contact, your smile, and touching her hand across the table as she’s telling a story. It’s about letting yourself go and just being yourself so she’s able to become attracted to you. It’s so hard for people to just let go. If you do nothing on a date except think and think and think, then guess what? You will never create any type of sexual attraction, because women will see that you are in your own head. When you’re totally in your own head, you can’t get into her heart.
So, how do you do this? How do you stay out of your own head, tap into your emotions and just let go? You must stay present. You listen to her stories. You smile. You hold her hand if you feel like holding her hand. There is no right or wrong time to hold somebody’s hand. You do it when you feel it. Here is a great exercise to do to learn how to tap into your emotions. Get a friend and tell them how you feel about them. Describe what it feels like to be friends with them, and what it’s like from your perspective. Then imagine what it feels like to be friends with yourself… Describe what it feels like to really reach deep inside yourself and see who YOU really are. Doing this enables you to see what your prospective date sees, from a fresh perspective. Look, she’s going on this date for the same reasons you are – to find out more about you, to enjoy herself, and maybe establish a connection. If you take the time to think about what qualities you display to your friends that make you a good friend, you’ll be more aware of them and she’ll instantly pick up on them. This will allow you to get out of your head! You all know what it’s like to connect with people. You connect with friends, family, and co-workers.
It is no different to connect with someone of the opposite sex. It takes being present. It takes enjoying yourself in the moment. It takes letting go.
If you do all of those things, you won’t be in the friend zone. You’ll be in the lover zone.
Something More Featuring Julia McCurley
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How to Get a Second Date with a Man
August 28, 2011 By
Some women try hard to get a date with a man and some get them easily. But what becomes a problem is getting that second date. We may give our best shot but never be sure of meeting again for a second date. It looks like a challenge to women.
What can make you get a second date easily? It is simply awareness. You must be aware of what attracts a man and what irritates him. Once you know about them, you can work on them and succeed in having not just second date, but even third, fourth, fifth and many more.
Do not utter the word ‘Commitment’: The very thought of commitment scares men. So on your first date, do not mention about being in a relationship. Remember he will not decide about you so early. You need to give him and yourself time to know each other. So never utter the word relationship or commitment. Of course that also includes what you expect from a man in a relationship. Keep your first date a casual one. Have fun with him so that he enjoys your company. If you by any chance go in this direction, change the topic and discuss something else.
Be Mysterious: Do not tell everything about yourself on Day One. Tell a little and leave him curious to know more. This will make him want to meet you again. Some women like to talk so much that they just go on talking and end up with just first date. The guy feels he knows all about the girl but she doesn’t know anything about him. Avoid such situations and let him express his opinion too. Be different and give him a chance to find out more about you in the next meeting.
Do not talk about your ex: It is always better to avoid any past talks. To be specific, do not discuss your ex boyfriends or how they ditched you or why you hate them now. No negative talks, justifications or explanations related to your ex should pop in between your conversations. If he asks you about your ex, just say politely “why do you want to know?” If you talk about your ex, he would think that you are still not over him.
Always say please and thank you: When you meet a man, you must use words like please and thank you. For example, when you are in a restaurant, you can ask him to ‘please order something for himself’ or you can ask him to ‘please have more’. Also when you end the date, thank him for meeting you, thank him for the wonderful time, wonderful movie or anything. Men like it when women appreciate them.
Take the compliment with full pride: When he compliments you, do not act like a little girl and put your head down in embarrassment. Instead take the compliment with full pride and say ‘Thanks!’ Show your confidence. Even you know you look good. Then why make up stupid faces and stories when he compliments you? Men find it charming when you thank them with full confidence. However don’t over use these words.
Do not talk about future: Let him initiate any talks related to a relationship with you or a future with you. Do not make him feel that you have already decided about having a long term relationship with him. If he says he wants to meet you again or he considers you as a potential partner, give a positive answer like, “Oh really. That’s nice,” but do not bring up your inner desires. Let him get excited to meet you again. That’s how he will give you a chance to meet again.
If you still don’t get a second date, check out yourself. Check your dressing sense, the way you speak, the kind of men you are looking for and meeting, and your conversations. May be you are missing out on something or playing all your cards at once. Be yourself and let him discover more about your personality and your charming side.
Know more about what men actually want. Tell your experiences to a male friend and let him give you a feedback. Take the feedback positively and work on the issues your friend finds in you.
Featured by Tyra Banks
August 19, 2011 By
Out to Dinner
A get-to-know-you dinner date gives you the chance to dress up a bit and show off a peep of sexiness. According to professional matchmaker Julia McCurley of Something More, “85 percent of men prefer women to wear skirts or dresses. Men want to see a woman’s sexy legs and ankles.” For going on a dinner date, she suggests a fitted knee-length sheath with a scoop or V-neck paired with a colored cardigan. Top it all off with some sexy strappy heels. “Leave the cleavage and miniskirts back in the dorm room!” she adds. You don’t want to give to much away.
Read more: http://www.typef.com/article/can-wear-black-dress-first-date/#ixzz1VVlVTukr
Featured In Austin Monthly
August 19, 2011 By
Something More was featured in Austin Monthly quoted as follows:
“You could call Julia McCurley Austin’s own Patti Stanger. The CEO of Something More has a track record of helping people find love. Here’s a peek at her favorite romantic songs.”
Westside Stories by Forrest Preece
August 2, 2011 By
Julia McCurley
A couple of years ago, a thirty-something friend of ours told us about a dating adventure she had experienced. It seems that she met a guy through one of the online services and agreed to go have a drink with him. After about thirty minutes of listening to him rattle non-stop about his life and woes without once asking anything about her, she looked up and spotted the bar manager.
She made up an excuse to go the ladies’ room, grabbed the manager by the arm, and asked him to tell her date that she had just gotten news of a family tragedy and had to leave. With that, she sped out the back door and went home.
That guy could have used some tips from my friend Julia McCurley and the other dating and relationship counselors at her firm “Something More.” [Read more...]