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April 25, 2012 By Leave a Comment

Are you distressed about your love life?   Make Love, Not Stress

Long term chronic stress can have serious implications for your health. As if that wasn’t bad enough, it can also affect your love life!

1. It decreases your sex drive

One of the symptoms of stress is a decreased sex drive. When you’re tired, tense and anxious it’s hard to be in the mood.

2. I’ve got a headache—really!

Stress causes muscle tension, pain and headaches. When you don’t feel good physically, sex loses its appeal.

3. Stress creates more conflict

Stress increases conflict in relationships even though it may be unspoken. That further diminishes your desire to make love with your partner.

4. Stress uses energy

Stress saps your energy both mentally and physically. If you’re really stressed when you go to bed you probably just want to sleep and escape from what’s worrying you for a few blissful hours.

5. Stress is distracting

No one enjoys making love with someone who isn’t fully present. When we’re stressed out our minds tend to become mired in our worries. It makes it difficult to focus on anything else.

Luckily nature gave us a great stress remedy—sex. It’s ironic, but sex is a great stress reliever even though stress plays havoc with our love lives. Yes, you’re tired, tense, have a headache and you’re distracted by your worries. Make a pact with your partner to create a joint strategy to deal with your stress. Give each other a massage to deal with those tense muscles and pains. Maybe take a soothing bath with your favorite bath oil and scented candles. Make time to meditate. Doing these things together and for each other will help you to reconnect and feel cared for at a time when that’s very important. If these stress busting activities lead to sex that’s wonderful – with the added bonus that it will further relieve your stress. If you fall asleep without making love, that’s okay, too. Sleep also helps with stress and you may end up making love in the morning when you’re feeling rested and refreshed from a good night’s sleep. Make a commitment with your partner that you won’t let stress rob you of your love life.

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Room to Bloom

March 21, 2012 By

The weather’s warmer and love is on the mind. When isn’t it? Here, Austin-based professional matchmaker Julia McCurley shares her insight on how you can stir up a Spring fling in your own life and create new experiences you’ve been craving.

Love is in the air. Literally. I was walking my dog around my neighborhood recently and I found myself engulfed in this amazing fragrance. “What’s that smell?” I wondered. Perfume? Detergent soap? No, it was blossoms, flowers in bloom. In the next moment I realized I was witnessing a natural, yearly occurrence. It’s spring!

It felt like a celebration, at least one for my nose. Then I started seeing the trees all around me, marveling at the new sprouts and greenery. I see it in my own backyard, the Crepe Myrtle trees full of fuchsia blooms, roses, and tulips peeking up from the ground  sending me hopeful signs I will be enjoying some beautiful floral arrangements soon to brighten up my home.

As I think of all the new life around me, I wonder about our own capacity to bloom. Mother Nature is a profound instructor. Does she have something to teach us with her beautiful spring? We’ve all heard the term “spring cleaning,” a time to clear out the old and usher in the new. Maybe we take on physical projects to spruce up our homes? Perhaps, we begin a new workout regime to get in shape? I’d like to offer another idea for this springtime moment. How about letting go of bad habits and being good to ourselves to create more room for the bloom of love in our lives? We can use the metaphor of wiping the slate, and we can savor the message from Mother Nature to begin again here, too.

Every year, without fail, the blooms always occcur. Right now, in this season, we have the opportunity to see ourselves in bloom as well, creating new ways to improve how we feel about others and ourselves. What would it feel like to think about us as freshly minted in our minds, free of heaviness? Let’s start by picturing our minds as a closet, and then apply the spring-cleaning concept to our mental baggage and wipe away. Let go of some of those old ways of dealing with challenging situations in our lives. If you are dissatisfied in certain areas, whether it your job, marriage, etc., ask yourself:  what would it feel like to start over with new thoughts applied to these familiar circumstances?

Our clients at Something More receive extensive coaching on to apply the Law of Attraction to their romantic life.  In other words like attracts like.  If you are looking for someone fun, exciting, and intelligent, then you need to become the person you want to attract.  This is a great example of changing our thoughts by taking action.  As they say, action speaks louder than words.

The first step is to tell ourselves a different story about the situation. For example, let’s say you want your significant other to help out more around the house. You might have wished this for a long time, and every time you think about the situation you get mad and feel disappointed because it hasn’t changed. You might even feel helpless about being able to ever change it. You may not be able to motivate another person, but you can change what you think about the situation. Instead of saying to yourself, “I wish my significant other would contribute more to running our household.” Instead try, “I love my spouse, he/she is trying and I believe he/she will find a way to improve.” It may seem too simple or easy to just find a happier thought, but try it… I find that it works.

Other examples may be “I wish I would get more social invitations.” Instead of waiting around for the guest list to magically include your name, why not start having your own dinner parties and create your own fulfilling social life that might in turn produce those invitations you want? You could even start some sort of wine club, book club, cooking class or whatever you’d like to pursue to satiate get those social interaction cravings.

At Something More we recommend to our clients to have a semi-annual cleansing of the mind and heart.  What this means is to get rid of all negative thoughts and to not dwell on past relationship disappointments.  This may sound cliché but it is very true, things could be a lot worse, someone else is suffering more than you.  Put a pen to paper and make a list of all the positive aspects in your life, and embrace an attitude of gratefulness and humility.  Expressing a loving kind heart to everyone you meet is an excellent way to focus on giving to other people to make them feel good about themselves rather than letting bitterness and anger get the best of you.

Our minds don’t have to hold on to old messages if we’re not telling ourselves the same old thing. Our minds can incorporate new ways of thinking and these new thoughts will make us feel better. The trick is finding something truthful about the problem and saying the new truth to ourselves instead of the same old tired thought.

Ghandi had it right when he famously said, 0ur beliefs become our thoughts.
Our thoughts become our words. Our words become our actions. Our actions become our habits. Our habits become our values.  Our values become our destiny.

It is time to create your own destiny. You already know how to feel bad about certain situations. Change your thinking. This spring, take yourself on a journey of self-awareness. So when you’re clearing out the garage, why not take a whack at your mental cobwebs too? Clean out your old thoughts. Begin again. You might just feel great starting immediately.

 

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Lust, Love and other drugs

February 20, 2012 By

As a Professional Matchmaker and relationship coach, I hear a lot about the need for chemistry. My clients talk about instant chemistry, hot chemistry, sparks flying, etc. You get the picture and you probably have your own description of this as well.

While I agree, there has to be attraction for a relationship to work, I’m going to tell you something that you might think is absolutely sacrilegious:

Hot chemistry is not an indication of a long-lasting partner.

What? How can I say that? Because I’ve lived it myself, I’ve read a lot about this topic by the experts and I’ve spoken to thousands of people about this requirement.

Hot chemistry, that sizzling, spark flying feeling is about lust and a great sexual partner. Unfortunately, that man often doesn’t have staying power regarding relationship vs. sexual satisfaction. Think about it. Right now, take a moment to think about the hottest guys you’ve been with.

  • Did those relationships last more than a few months?
  • Were the guys good to you and treat you well?
  • Did you fight a lot followed by hot “make up sex”?

This is nature’s trick on women. I don’t know why. The men who seem the hottest to you most often disappoint you, break your heart, and leave you wondering what happened. After all, how could a man walk away from such passion? For one thing – there’s always more passion and another woman.

Yet, you pine for Mr. Chemistry. You miss him deeply and think with chemistry like that, the relationship was “meant to be.” But, I want you to hear this message loud and clear:

When you find a relationship that is “Meant To Be”,
it continues, it’s more joyful than drama-filled, and
you bring out the best in each other.

If you had a relationship that was hot and steamy and it ended, don’t go looking for a replacement with similar qualities. Enjoy those memories and be grateful you had a good time. But, WAKE UP. Open your eyes, heart and mind to seek a good man, a man with lasting power (not just in the bedroom). Look to meet men who are compatible in all areas that are important for a healthy, loving relationship.

Such qualities include honesty, integrity, a similar view of life and the world, money and work ethic, acceptance of each other’s religious beliefs, compatible life styles, some overlapping interests, and an appreciation for each other’s sense of humor. These are indicators of long-term potential in a man and a relationship.

You know how women say a man thinks with his little head vs. his big head sometimes? Same thing goes for you! Don’t think with your lady parts.  Use your head, not just your heart and nether regions. Those two parts of you are not always the best at making decisions about love. You know this is true because you start doing foolish things you regret to keep him around way past the good times.

If you want a satisfying, long-term, loving relationship, start thinking of other qualities first besides chemistry. You can still find someone you are attracted to and have good chemistry with. It might not be the super hot, totally engulfing chemistry – but that’s when you know you are onto a man who could be a really good match for life.

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Why not to feel embarrased about using a matchmaking service

January 13, 2012 By

Let’s be honest, we all harbor romantic notions of meeting the person of our dreams serendipitously. But the harsh reality is that whilst juggling successful and demanding careers, busy lifestyles and elevated expectations how many opportunities are there really for serendipity to make that one-in-a-million encounter occur? This is why many of us are now turning to modern approaches, such as online dating, singles events and dating agencies. So shouldn’t we be thankful that we have all these choices available, rather than put undue pressure on ourselves and hide our participation in shame?

Seriously, why are we embarrassed and uncomfortable about admitting our partaking to others? Is it the fear of being perceived desperate? But what’s so desperate about proactively seeking your personal goals, you wouldn’t be judged in the same way if you were being proactive to achieve your professional goals. Is it the prospect of being viewed as a failure? Isn’t a failure someone who gives up after not being able to fulfill their desired goal? This is contradictory in itself, you’re not giving up, you’re rising to the challenge by exploring alternative ways to fulfill your goal of meeting a life partner. Perhaps, it’s the idea of marketing and selling yourself as a commodity? Is it really that bad to see yourself in a positive light and to let the world know what a wonderful person you are (within reason of course!)?

Surely matchmaking services like Something More are now at the height of social acceptance, given that it’s a rare day, when there is not something in the media associated with the industry.   There are even several top rated reality shows depicting the behind the scenes of the matchmaking business.   Using a matchmaking service is the new luxury for yourself.  You  have the career, the house, the car, etc.  Why not take charge of your love life and stop leaving things to chance.

You may well wonder what difference it would really make, to admit using services like Something More? For starters, you take the pressure off yourself. You don’t need to worry about who may see your details online, feel anxious that the person you bumped into at a singles event may tell a mutual friend, or even tell white lies about your whereabouts. By being honest and open, you will feel more relaxed, perhaps take part in more events and increase your chances of meeting someone. Furthermore, you know how hard it is out there, trying to meet Mr or Miss Right. If you succeed through any one of these services like Something More, by sharing your experiences with others, you give them hope and in some cases the will to overcome their own reservations and possibly try it for themselves.

As we try to disassociate ourselves from using these matchmaking services, perhaps we’ve missed the point altogether and simply need to remind ourselves of the bigger picture. Imagine you want to go to  Dallas, flying is the most convenient and quickest method, but there are no flights available. Although it’s not ideal, you now have to use an alternative mode of transport. By not flying, did this make you a failure? Should you be perceived as a social misfit? I think not. In fact you should be pleased with yourself that you made it to your destination, despite the transportation challenge. As for the friends that you’re meeting there, they don’t really care how you got there, they’re just happy that you’re actually there.

Are you getting the drift now… If you meet your partner through any one of these matchmaking services, 10 years down the line when you’re looking back and reminiscing about your married life together, you may remember your first date, your wedding day and the birth of your children, how significant will it be that you used, and met through a service like Something More? At the end of the day, you’re on a journey to find your life partner. The mode of transport used on your journey is irrelevant, as long as you reach your ‘destiny-ation’ – you shouldn’t feel embarrassed or ashamed – the most important part is that you get there in the end!

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New Year, New You

January 4, 2012 By

Out with the old, in with the new, right? This time of the year we are all so excited to make a fresh start, clearing away the past to make room for the future. Professional matchmaker Julia McCurley gives us the inside track on how seven steps just might make this your best romantic year ever.

The majority of people make New Year resolutions every year and nearly all of them fail. Have you ever thought that the fault is not in the people making them, but in the kind of resolutions they create? Most resolutions are about giving something up or self- improving types of decisions to lose weight, quit smoking, go to the gym, etc. Those are all great goals and definitely ones to take care of before putting yourself out there in the singles scene.

So once you are in a healthy place both physically and emotionally, why not make a conscious decision that giving back to yourself is the best way to finally find love in 2012.   What this means is to focus on making permanent changes that will help you in all aspects of your life. January is the perfect time to wipe your slate clean of last year’s love mistakes to ensure that next year really is filled with lasting love. If you are serious about fast forwarding to the relationship of your dreams, it’s time to commit to the following seven life changes.

1. Eliminate Old Patterns

If your luck in love is going to be different next year, the first thing you need to do is get honest with yourself about the patterns that are holding you back. Think back through the last few years – what have your experienced over and over? Do you pursue while he/she withdraws? Are you forever rescuing him/her? Resolve to catch yourself making the same mistakes, then walk away, so you can create new, healthy habits in all areas of your life.

2. Date Outside Your Type

Chances are if your “type” hasn’t panned out for you by now, it’s time to discover a new type. Quirky artist not working out so well? Mr. Wall Street never emotionally available? Is Ms Seductress playing head games? Resolve to date outside your normal comfort zone. Consider opening up your expectations in regard to age, height, income, religion, job, etc. Soulmates come in unexpected packages – broaden your horizon and you are more apt to stumble upon an unexpected.

3. Guard Your Time Wisely

The best way to fast forward to The One? Stop wasting your time with people who are clearly only Mr./Ms. Right Now. As long as you give away your valuable time, attention, and emotion to the wrong partner, there will be no room to find the right relationship. Limit yourself to three months of dating and if the bond does not have more obvious potential by then, move on. Remember, actions speak louder than words. The best predictor of future behavior is past behavior. Do they do what they are saying they are going to do? No matter how large or small even a simple promise, like calling you on time, tells a lot about a person’s true character. As Maya Angelou states, when someone shows you how they are with their behavior, believe them.

4. Change Your Routine

Yes, doing what you’ve always done, will get you the results you’ve always gotten. If you haven’t found the right partner during your usual routine, it’s time to get creative in your daily & dating activities. This is a new year, and the best way to meet new people is of course – to try something “NEW.” If you get too comfortable in doing the same routine for the rest of the days and months- and or years; it might end up to be monogamous and boring. Now is the time to explore. Take a different jogging route, try out new activities which you might like, go out to restaurants and cafes in which you haven’ been to. By doing so, you can discover and learn new things and get to meet new dates and people.

5. Be Friendlier

If you are the bashful type, now is the year to finally conquer it. Time for you to build up your confidence and gather your courage. Picture this, he’s so near, yet you can’t even say “Hi” or give a smile. Don’t waste any more time and give it some effort. Say “Hi” and learn to smile more. Pump yourself up with courage and try looking at people in a relaxed and friendly manner.

6. Master Your Nervousness

If you are one who gets overly giddy when it comes to first dates; then you are not alone – it’s all due to the butterflies in the stomach, the nerves and the first time jitters. Too much giddiness or nervousness could turn a good date into a bad one, or sometimes, vice-versa. Due to all the nervousness that you are feeling when conversing with them, you could get clumsy and not concentrate, thus, your strengths tend to not be revealed. This time around, tell yourself that its just a natural feeling to be nervous, but don’t let it overcome you.

7. Share Your Best Self

Maybe it’s not just what you are doing that needs a makeover, but who you are and how you show up. Get real with yourself by asking: What about you isn’t as attractive as it could be? Ask your closest friend for honest feedback. Do you tend to be overly anxious or pessimistic? Are quick to pass judgment or so shy you fade into the background? Maybe it’s time to hit the gym, get some cute clothes, or try a new hairstyle?  Remember you never get a second chance to make a first  impression and 2012 will be a year that is very impressionable on us all.

For more information on Julia McCurley, professional matchmaker based in Austin, and her services, visit www.trysomethingmore.com

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How to get out of the “friend zone”

October 17, 2011 By

One topic that people seem to ask me to talk about over and over again is the issue of “the friend zone.” People always want to know how to avoid getting into the friend zone (especially when they are out on a date).Just asking the question means that you need to take a good look at your mindset. Think about the question: “How do I avoid the friend zone when I am out on a date?” …

When you’re out on a date with a woman. She is not looking at you as a friend if she accepted the date from you in the first place  The fact that you have this concern, however, shows that you are going into your dates with the energy of being a friend. This means that you are playing it safe.  It means that you are really not expressing your desires, feelings and emotions. You are basically in your head during the entire date, just being a “good guy” and probably agreeing with everything she says.

By playing it safe, though, you get exactly what you fear the most. You get put in the friend zone.

The most important thing to remember is that when you’re out on a date it’s all about your mindset and how you interact with the woman. It’s all about your eye contact, your smile, and touching her hand across the table as she’s telling a story.  It’s about letting yourself go and just being yourself so she’s able to become attracted to you. It’s so hard for people to just let go. If you do nothing on a date except think and think and think, then guess what? You will never create any type of sexual attraction, because women will see that you are in your own head. When you’re totally in your own head, you can’t get into her heart.

So, how do you do this? How do you stay out of your own head, tap into your emotions and just let go?  You must stay present. You listen to her stories. You smile. You hold her hand if you feel like holding her hand.  There is no right or wrong time to hold somebody’s hand. You do it when you feel it.  Here is a great exercise to do to learn how to tap into your emotions. Get a friend and tell them how you feel about them. Describe what it feels like to be friends with them, and what it’s like from your perspective.  Then imagine what it feels like to be friends with yourself… Describe what it feels like to really reach deep inside yourself and see who YOU really are. Doing this enables you to see what your prospective date sees, from a fresh perspective.  Look, she’s going on this date for the same reasons you are – to find out more about you, to enjoy herself, and maybe establish a connection. If you take the time to think about what qualities you display to your friends that make you a good friend, you’ll be more aware of them and she’ll instantly pick up on them. This will allow you to get out of your head!   You all know what it’s like to connect with people. You connect with friends, family, and co-workers.

It is no different to connect with someone of the opposite sex. It takes being present. It takes enjoying yourself in the moment. It takes letting go.

If you do all of those things, you won’t be in the friend zone. You’ll be in the lover zone.

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How to Get a Second Date with a Man

August 28, 2011 By

Some women try hard to get a date with a man and some get them easily. But what becomes a problem is getting that second date. We may give our best shot but never be sure of meeting again for a second date. It looks like a challenge to women.

What can make you get a second date easily? It is simply awareness. You must be aware of what attracts a man and what irritates him. Once you know about them, you can work on them and succeed in having not just second date, but even third, fourth, fifth and many more.

Do not utter the word ‘Commitment’: The very thought of commitment scares men. So on your first date, do not mention about being in a relationship. Remember he will not decide about you so early. You need to give him and yourself time to know each other. So never utter the word relationship or commitment. Of course that also includes what you expect from a man in a relationship. Keep your first date a casual one. Have fun with him so that he enjoys your company. If you by any chance go in this direction, change the topic and discuss something else.

Be Mysterious: Do not tell everything about yourself on Day One. Tell a little and leave him curious to know more. This will make him want to meet you again. Some women like to talk so much that they just go on talking and end up with just first date. The guy feels he knows all about the girl but she doesn’t know anything about him. Avoid such situations and let him express his opinion too. Be different and give him a chance to find out more about you in the next meeting.

Do not talk about your ex: It is always better to avoid any past talks. To be specific, do not discuss your ex boyfriends or how they ditched you or why you hate them now. No negative talks, justifications or explanations related to your ex should pop in between your conversations. If he asks you about your ex, just say politely “why do you want to know?” If you talk about your ex, he would think that you are still not over him.

Always say please and thank you: When you meet a man, you must use words like please and thank you. For example, when you are in a restaurant, you can ask him to ‘please order something for himself’ or you can ask him to ‘please have more’. Also when you end the date, thank him for meeting you, thank him for the wonderful time, wonderful movie or anything. Men like it when women appreciate them.

Take the compliment with full pride: When he compliments you, do not act like a little girl and put your head down in embarrassment. Instead take the compliment with full pride and say ‘Thanks!’ Show your confidence. Even you know you look good. Then why make up stupid faces and stories when he compliments you? Men find it charming when you thank them with full confidence. However don’t over use these words.

Do not talk about future: Let him initiate any talks related to a relationship with you or a future with you. Do not make him feel that you have already decided about having a long term relationship with him. If he says he wants to meet you again or he considers you as a potential partner, give a positive answer like, “Oh really. That’s nice,” but do not bring up your inner desires. Let him get excited to meet you again. That’s how he will give you a chance to meet again.

If you still don’t get a second date, check out yourself. Check your dressing sense, the way you speak, the kind of men you are looking for and meeting, and your conversations. May be you are missing out on something or playing all your cards at once. Be yourself and let him discover more about your personality and your charming side.

Know more about what men actually want. Tell your experiences to a male friend and let him give you a feedback. Take the feedback positively and work on the issues your friend finds in you.

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Opposites May Attract, But Do the Relationships Last?

April 11, 2011 By

So you are considering dating someone who is more or less your opposite. You remember the old adage “opposites attract” but you find yourself wondering if that attraction is just a fleeting moment or if it will last for a lifetime? Have you experienced this before? How do you know that when you start dating someone that it will develop into something more?

The first thing to remember is that while sometimes opposites attract, dating and relationships are not an exact science. It is not possible that this will happen consistently. There are a lot of things that might seem tempting in a relationship with your opposite. There is always a thrill in attempting something different or out of the norm. Maybe you are a quiet, shy individual. So you decide to date someone loud and boisterous. Will it work? Maybe. Maybe not. You should go about this as an informed dater!

When two people who are in a relationship are not compatible, there can be a lot of strain and disagreement early in the relationship. If there is one major difference that the two of you share, it is likely there are a thousand more small differences lurking in the background. This could make communication very difficult. Ultimately, if there is no or poor communication, the relationship might be doomed. It is hard to communicate effectively when you aren’t looking at things the same way. Differences can be something as small as being an early riser or a night owl. Or they could be something more fundamental as alcohol usage or ethical ideals.

The dictionary defines compatibility as the ability to exist, live, or work together without conflict. This is a good example of why compatibility is such a hot topic when discussing harmonious relationships. While there is no harm in dating someone that is considered your opposite, don’t approach it with an expectation of a long lasting relationship. When couples “drift” apart, sometimes the reason is that they weren’t compatible in the first place. Things might start out well, and there might not be anything significant, but enough little differences can add up over time and cause a large rift in a relationship.

A reasonable way to avoid this is to enlist the services of a matchmaker. A matchmaker can find out upfront information about a potential match that otherwise might take years for you to find out on your own. Dating and social interactions can be hard to decipher, especially without a little help. Most people date when they have time and  are not professionals at it. So why not have an upper hand? A matchmaker can offer you personal service that is not available when using a website or other self-service dating services.

The purpose of this is not to discourage you from dating someone that is your opposite, but to encourage you to consider the consequence of spending a lot of precious time finding out that someone is the wrong fit for you, when a matchmaker can help eliminate that. Be an informed dater!

 

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Introduction Dating – Online Dating Vs Matchmaking – The Final Showdown

September 23, 2010 By

Introduction Dating – Online Dating Vs Matchmaking – The Final Showdown :

In the final showdown between online dating and matchmaking, let’s take a look at both sides of the issue and try to sift through the dangers and benefits. One major danger in online dating is the fact that dangerous individuals can easily utilize fake profiles and usually there are neither screening nor background checks completed on the patrons who use this service. For the few services that do some sort of background check, it is usually cursory and not a 100% guarantee for safety. Of course, nothing in life is guaranteed and you could very well meet a serial killer at the local supermarket, but many dangers do exist in the online dating world. The majority of times there are no verifications of ID’s and you may run the risk of identity theft when you use these services.

There are a huge number of websites offering to help your love life today. While some of them are inclined to help you get into dating and building a relationship from there, others are more inclined towards finding you that right kind of match and then informing you of the profiles that match your criteria.

Adult Online Dating – The Advantages and Disadvantage
Dating has really been revolutionized with the introduction of the internet. Prior to online dating people dated by meeting people at school, church, work, in bars, or through connections with their own friends and family members. Internet dating is a viable option for anyone to take who wishes to get involved for the first time or get re-involved after not being in the scene for awhile. However, there are some advantages and disadvantages to both.

Advantages of Online Dating and Matchmaking Websites
More and more people are using the internet to meet new friends and potential partners. At first, online dating or matchmaking was viewed negatively as something embarrassing and people who used it were geeks and losers who could not attract or get dates. But these days, this stereotype is changing.

Is Online Dating Right For You? – Online Dating Vs Traditional
As recently as ten years ago the, the phrase “online dating” was rather new to many people. Back in those days, online dating was not considered a serious method of finding a true love. Today the situation is different. While much more commonly accepted, this method of finding the perfect match puts you in a vulnerable position and you are alone, with no guidance. Another downfall is that the people with more engaging profiles are inundated with emails and this could get frustrating; leading the person to stop using the service at all.

Further, the online dating services have been infiltrated by the porn industry as well as utilized as a form of advertising for strippers and prostitutes. Sometimes profiles appear as active; however, they no longer are. Remember, this service is all operating through the Internet and you have no idea if the person you “meet online” is married, a serial cheater or dater or worse (recent surveys indicated that as many as 40% of the profiles marked “single” on a popular dating site were in fact those of married people trying to find “something on the side”). No federal regulations exist to protect individuals who use this service.

There are many benefits in utilizing the services of a professional matchmaker. You receive personalized attention in regard to ascertaining your personality type and what you are seeking in a potential candidate for dating. The matchmaker would personally meet with a pool of prospects and weed out the dangers previously discussed in regard to online dating.

You receive professional advice and the matchmaker spends quality time in assessing you and your situation, far more accurately than any personality test online ever could. You are benefiting from professional experience in the field of dating and you would not be alone in your decision-making.

In harnessing the talents of such a professional, you have increased your chances of success. More monetary compensation may be required than for your average online dating service; however, you’ll be getting the better deal. This matchmaker is equivalent to the services offered by a corporate headhunter looking to find the next CEO, but with the express purpose of locating your perfect other half. In choosing a matchmaker, you stay underneath the protective umbrella of the trained eye. You minimize the risk factor and maximize the benefits and in the long run will see the fruits of an expertly laid out plan to meet the right one.

 

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Why use a matchmaker?

September 11, 2010 By

Why A Matchmaker?

Before we begin telling you why one should consider a professional matchmaker, let me begin by explaining why matchmaking isn’t for all singles.

Matchmakers Aren’t For All Singles…

Don’t even bother considering matchmaking if you enjoy casual dating or serial dating.

Singles that go to professional matchmakers dread your type. Matchmaking is for individuals that can not bear to be approached with dating games and prefer to make a change.

Don’t bother going to a matchmaking company if you have no curiosity in a real relationship.

If your only interested in casual dating, a professional matchmaker will be a useless and waste of valuable time and money. Matchmaking is for singles who are serious about a long-lasting companionship and prefer to do everything in their ability to stop encountering singles who aren’t committed towards a lasting relationship.

Stay clear of matchmaking if you’re broke.

A matchmakers services are an affordable yet meaningful investment in yourself and are not for everyone. Singles that use matchmakers realize that an investment in oneself can be the best decision they can ever make, especially if they are successful and are missing that special someone to share their life with.

Matchmaking isn’t for the pessimistic

If you don’t believe something is going to work out, well guess what, it’s not. Matchmakers work best for individuals that have a positive outlook on life what they’re looking for. You will not find success unless your sure you can. Sometimes matchmakers don’t always get it right the first time around, but if you are open minded and work with their experience, matchmakers can produce surprising results that you would never believe possible.

Don’t go to a professional matchmaker if you have unrealistic expectations.

There is a difference between meeting the companion of your dreams and living in dreamland. If you are a 6, don’t expect 10’s. Believe it or not, 10’s have high expectations aswell. Sure everyone deserves love, but we all have to be realistic to each other expectations. Professional matchmaking can cut through the clouds and focus on what is truly important in ones life, which is to find somebody who loves you for who you are and can’t wait to see you at when you get home in the evening.

Above describes the kind of individuals who do not belong at a matchmaking service, but here are a few of the reasons you may want to consider using one. Matchmakers:

* Provide a pre-screening process to help make sure singles are real

* Weed out the undesirable types you would never care to meet

* Focus oo relationship minded singles, not casual dater

* Cater to compatibility so you don’t waste time in dead end relationships

* Save you time, energy and effort by doing all the hard work

* Find you wonderful singles you simply wouldn’t find on your own

Matchmakers can truly change your life, but as the saying goes it takes two to tango……

So what are you waiting for, take the initial step to see if a professional matchmaker is right for you.

There is no risk or obligation to you…

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