As a Professional Matchmaker, I have been asked how to make someone fall in love with you. I have interviewed over 3000 singles and helped over 500 people on their journey to finding love. Some people actually think I can show them how to make someone fall in love. Could it be that it’s simply a set of optimal circumstances which, when put together, as in the right place and the right time someone will fall in love with you? Can you fall in love more than once over your lifetime or is there really only one soul mate?
Okay, so there’s no way to manufacture love, but maybe there are ways to increase the chances of someone you’re interested in falling for you.
1. Share the person’s passions
When you have something in common with someone, you will both naturally bond together. Whether that’s your shared love for running, food or a place, you are more likely to get along with someone if you enjoy the same things. This in turn can make you appear attractive if you have common ground. Of course, finding someone who shares your interests can be hard, There’s no better ice breaker than having something in common, so why not start with mutual places!
2 Stare at each other. A lot.
According to Harvard psychologist Zick Rubin, couples who are deeply in love look at each other 75 per cent of the time while talking. In regular conversation, this happens between 30 to 60 per cent of the time. Eye contact builds intimacy, and over time that feeling of intimacy gets associated with the person giving all the eye contact.
3 Be confident.
People who are confident tend to be more open to intimacy than those who are not. Being emotionally intimate increases the likelihood of developing lasting romantic feelings towards someone. If you want someone to fall in love with you, you need to love yourself first.